Every woman who experiences pain during intimacy goes through an uncomfortable journey that can affect her self-esteem and her relationship with her partner. But there’s no need for fear or embarrassment—solutions exist. There are sex positions that help reduce pain during intercourse and allow you to enjoy intimacy without discomfort or anxiety.
In this article, we’ll discuss the causes of pain, the best positions to ease it, and tips for a more comfortable and enjoyable experience.
The reasons for painful sex vary. Vaginal dryness can result from menopause, breastfeeding, or certain medications. Vaginismus is caused by stress or past trauma and leads to involuntary muscle spasms. Endometriosis is another common condition that can lead to deep pelvic pain during intimacy.
Here are the most effective positions that help reduce discomfort during sex:
1- Spooning
One of the best sex positions to reduce sex pain is spooning which involves both partners lying on their sides, with the man behind the woman. It allows for shallow penetration and gives control to the receiving partner, which can help reduce pain and discomfort.
2- Side-by-Side
Lying on your sides and facing each other can allow for gentle and controlled penetration. This position can also be more comfortable for those with back or hip pain.
3- Woman on Top
Being on top allows the woman to control the depth and speed of penetration, which can help reduce discomfort.
4- Edge of the Bed
The woman lies on the edge of the bed while the partner stands or kneels. This position allows for comfortable angles and provides extra support using the bed.
5- Modified Doggy Style
A pillow placed under the belly modifies the angle, reducing pressure on the pelvic area—ideal for women with endometriosis or those experiencing deep pain.
6- Pillow Support
Placing a pillow under the hips lifts the pelvis, improving the angle and reducing pressure on sensitive areas for a more comfortable experience.
7- Face-to-Face Seated
Sitting opposite each other—either on the bed or the floor—enables soft, gentle movement and emotional intimacy, perfect for quiet, relaxed moments.
1- Communicate Openly With Your Partner
Honest communication is essential. Talk about your feelings, limitations, and any fears. Your partner needs to understand your experience to support and accommodate you.
2- Listen to Your Body
Pay attention to your body and stop if you feel any pain. Experiment with different positions to find what suits you best. Remember that it’s normal to have limitations and important not to pressure yourself.
Some positions may feel less comfortable than others, and that’s okay. Sexual intimacy is about discovering what you like and what you don’t. You don’t have to enjoy every position. Love yourself and don’t be afraid to explore new ways to feel pleasure.
3- Seek Professional Help
If you’re experiencing persistent pain during sex, it’s important to seek help from a specialist to diagnose the issue and find the right treatment.
In summary, experiencing pain during sex can be deeply distressing, but always remember: there are ways to manage and reduce it. Through open communication, experimenting with different positions, listening to your body, and seeking professional help when needed, you can reclaim comfort and intimacy. Don’t be hard on yourself, and don’t be afraid to try something new. You are not alone—and help is available!
If you’re dealing with vaginismus or fear of intimacy, we have a dedicated program designed just for you. Our Vaginismus Program offers expert guidance, professional support, and personalized plans to help you overcome pain and rebuild confidence. Start your healing journey today: Enroll in the Vaginismus Program
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